Monday, April 13, 2015

You Teach Them How To Treat You

For the last ten weeks my life has been completely dominated by this guy.

Hi, I'm Angus.  I'm a straight-up mess.
I really only want to live with a dog if he has manners, and I'm the lucky one who gets to teach him all those manners!  He came to me at 8 weeks old, adorable and wild.  He had no idea we don't jump on people or the couch, that we can't nip the kids out of excitement, that mouthing people/clothes/furniture is not okay.  I have had to teach him all that stuff and a lot more.

It has reminded me a lot of that old saying, "You teach people how to treat you."  Have you ever heard that saying?  I'm literally teaching this puppy how to treat us. For people, I think it means that others learn really quickly how far they can go with us, what boundaries we have and how we react when they're crossed.  If you stay silent when someone talks down to you, you have taught them to talk down to you.  If you yell and scream when you are angry, you teach them that yelling and screaming is how to communicate with you.

Boundaries: they're important.

I have had some big relational disappointments in the last year or so, with the sudden disappearance of a really good friend and with some other issues with people I love.  Revisiting this principle, "you teach people how to treat you," has me asking where I lost sight of my boundaries.  Have I allowed any of them to be crossed, without consequence?  I think the answer is most definitely "yes." So often we don't want to establish boundaries, or we let them slide, out of fear of confrontation, or even (as was my case with my friend) because on the surface the relationship seems fulfilling and like nothing can go wrong.  I guess I had gotten lazy with certain boundaries, and the result is really painful.

Today maybe give a few minutes of thought to your boundaries.  Are you teaching anyone out there to disrespect you?  To be too familiar?  To jump frantically up and down when company comes over? Oh wait, that's just the puppy.  Well you get my point.  It's the same for dogs and people--we are at least partly responsible for how they treat us.  Or maybe you are all good in this area; if so, you go girl!  Good job!  In any case, gut-check accomplished.  I gotta run for now and go pick up some poop or something.

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Monday, March 16, 2015

Kitchen Reno Plans

Hello My Dears!

When 2015 got under way I made a list of my goals for the year and it had about a zillion items on it.  At least 30, which felt like a zillion.  For a couple of weeks I kept thinking "okay what can I do from the list?" until the list itself became the priority and it started making me nuts.  So I made a new list, and it only had five items on it.  I instantly felt so much better!

One of those five goals for 2015 is to finish our kitchen renovation.  When we moved in almost two years ago, we felt blessed that the previous owners had updated the kitchen.  They put in granite counters, new stainless appliance, and painted the cabinets white.  I have always dreamed of a white kitchen (See, e.g., "My Future White Kitchen" board on Pinterest).  However, this reno was only about 80% finished in my book, and now I'm ready to tackle the rest.

The view from the Breakfast Nook
The Breakfast Nook
The "Mud Room," looking more or less as it did the last time you saw it, minus a "J" which our puppy removed from a tag.
So here are the things that need doing:

Paint the trim white (Benjamin Moore White Dove)
It is going to look so much better with white trim!  I am leaving the wood trim up in my family room, but now the kitchen will match the trim in the dining room, so yay!

Paint the walls (Sherwin Williams Sedate Gray)
This is a great light gray that is already making me happy in my upstairs hallway.  Love it!
Paint Color SW 6169 Sedate Gray from Sherwin-Williams
Photo: Sherwin Williams
Install new light fixtures
The cheap track lighting above the island has to go.  I am thinking something like this (I'd do three):

Photo: West Elm
Install a Backsplash?
What do you think...do I need one?

Add personality to the walls
On this last point I have been really stuck.  I think I am doing a huge chalkboard on that blank wall in the dining nook, but what to do on this weird wall next to all the doors to other rooms?


Luckily I recently discovered the Minted Art Marketplace, and y'all. I was floored by the incredible variety of options for both artwork and framing.  I have used Minted for cards before and have always been impressed with their quality, but the art at Minted was a new one for me and now I can't stop browsing!  Here are a few options--you have to tell me, which one would you choose?
Photo: Minted

Photo: Minted

Photo: Minted


Photo: Minted

Photo: Minted

Photo: Minted

I'm kind of all over the place in terms of style--I admit to being a little overwhelmed by all the options!  I've even thought about going with family photos and doing a customizable print like this:

Photo: Screen Shot of this customizable photo art at Minted

Or a foil print, oh the foil prints!  So pretty!  I think they have every state too, and many cities as well.
Photo: Minted

So, what's your vote?  There are so many more over at Minted (I haven't even scratched the surface) so if you hop over there and see one I should consider, let me know that too!  I noticed they have 15% off everything through today, so that's fun!


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